Sexual fantasies are the best kept secret in the female universe, an arsenal of images, words, smells and memories that, from the mind, cascade throughout our bodies until we reach orgasm. And this happens whether we are alone or if we are accompanied: the orgasmic woman knows how to make very good use of her mental images to achieve pleasure.
The nature of erotic things is secrecy, otherwise they lose their spell.Björk
The power of secrecy
But, as Björk affirms, their power lies in secrecy, because we ourselves do not understand the mechanism by which a simple image can transport us very quickly to the most intense of orgasms. If we reveal our secrets, we would feel naked and quite possibly these images would lose all their power. Sexual fantasies are the most intimate and personal mental treasures that a woman has, and is therefore not the subject of light conversation with the friend or the lover. Nobody should know them, only we must have the key!
In the privacy of our mind, erotic fantasy follows our script to the letter, everything is exactly the way we want it, nothing deviates from the goal and we are in control. That is why they are much more effective than when we make a representation of them with our lover (we actually felt ridiculous in that apron or in that secretary costume, or that bonding attempt, we really didn’t like at all, etc.)
Fantasy without boundaries
The richer the inner world, the more intense and juicy the sexual fantasies can become. There are no limits to the imagination and yet sometimes, all we need is simply a stage and a faceless man. A summer silky dress, some stockings with garters and a man on a bus who touches us first from behind and then we turn and he caresses our pussy through the silk dress… you get the idea.
What I mean is that the use of erotic fantasies is very easy and effective as they are made to our measure and nothing can fail, success is assured. Our erotic fantasy and our bedroom become our kingdom, and in there, we must feel free to explore both the darkest and the most beautiful corners of our minds, it all depends on our mood and desire.
Our mind as a sex organ
Female eroticism is therefore a mental affair that has its physical counterpart (arousal and orgasm) in an astonishing demonstration of the power of the mind over the body. It is not a secret that a woman needs the help of the mind to reach orgasm and become sexually aroused; it is her mental process that brings her to climax, the physical stimulation and the presence of the partner being somewhat secondary… the mind is our most powerful sexual organ!
When it comes to images, it is in art where women’s erotic fantasies find her best ally. Let’s see some of their representation by the hand of great artists.
Examples from the world of art:
The Dream of the Fisherman’s Wife, 1820. Hokusai.
Perhaps the earliest example of tentacle eroticism, a well-known female sexual fantasy especially in Japanese culture, depicts a woman sexually entwined with a pair of octopuses, the smallest of which kisses her while the largest performs cunnilingus. All the details of the famous erotic scene are written in the background and show the immense sexual pleasure that the woman and the octopus are experiencing. It is said that a copy of this woodcut was given to the brides as an instruction manual in the art of lovemaking. This is undoubtedly an erotic fantasy that is best kept only in the mind!
The Lovers II, 1928. René Magritte.
Sex with a stranger. The lovers kiss with their heads covered by a veil, a one-off encounter, intensely erotic and unforgettable. It is one of the most recurrent female erotic fantasies and one of the most practiced by couples when they want to enliven their sexual relations with some mystery.
The Dream, 1932. Picasso.
Marie-Thérèse Walter, his lover and his muse in those years, sleeps and Picasso imagines her with his penis on her head. The image represents, on the one hand, Picasso’s wishes that his young lover desires his penis as much as he desires her, and on the other, the woman’s phallic obsession. There is a certain subliminal accent, because at first glance, the penis can go unnoticed.
Jupiter and Io, 1533. Correggio.
The whole sense of sexual surrender that is expressed in the figure and the fact that Jupiter appears as a cloud reinforces the concept that sex and eroticism are first in the mind and then in the physical sensations. Jupiter often morphed into another way to seduce the women he desired. On Jupiter and Io, he wraps himself in a dark cloud to seduce the nymph Io, daughter of Inachus, king of Argos. He had approached her before in his own appearance and asked her to accompany him to the forest, but when she fled, he became a cloud and chased her. Erotic ecstasy in the mental image of a rape perpetrated by a god.
These are just a few examples of eroticism represented in art by great masters. It is said that all great works of art must have an erotic component as well as a sad overtone to convey a truly human experience. I guess that our erotic fantasies are exactly that: one of the most profound and beautiful human experiences, in which we all can be artists in the noble search of pleasure and beauty.
Main picture credits go to: Clara Urquijo from her project “Mermaids do it better”